Luke 17: Silent Gratitude Looks Like Ingratitude

Introduction

"It is not happy people who are thankful; it is thankful people who are happy." Dominik Pöllner borrows this saying, attributed to Francis Bacon, in the heart of his harvest festival message at the Evangelische Gemeinde ELIM Leipzig.

The harvest festival reminds us that we have reasons to be thankful and that we have been richly blessed. The preacher starts from a simple observation: nobody decides to become ungrateful, and yet ingratitude settles in on its own. Gratitude, on the other hand, does not come by itself.

To illustrate this, he reads the story of the ten lepers healed by Jesus in Luke 17. Only one comes back to say thank you. Jesus' question, "Where are the nine?", becomes a personal one: how often am I one of the nine?

Outline of the message

1. Gratitude, a key to life

The preacher cites a study by Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology, on what helps people experience the most happiness. By far the most effective measure: expressing gratitude every day.
It is not enough to feel it deep down; it has to be expressed: write it in a notebook, or tell someone, "I am so thankful for what you did."
He calls out a "super toxic" thought: "That's normal." It's normal that the fridge is full, that the harvest comes back every year, that volunteers work hard every week for the service, that my wife or my husband does what they do.
"The moment you take something for granted, it is the first step toward decline." When I am no longer thankful for my wife and I only look at what is wrong, it is the first step toward a bad marriage.
Even at the gas station, he takes a moment to say, "Thank you, God, that I have a car to fill, even if gas is expensive. I don't have to walk everywhere."
What matters is not having many reasons to be thankful, but having learned to turn your gaze toward the good things.

2. Ingratitude grows like weeds

Nobody makes it a New Year's resolution: "I want to become truly ungrateful, with a cynical heart that points out the bad." Yet some people do become that.
"You become ungrateful all by yourself." It is like weeds in a garden: if I don't actively fight ingratitude, it is only a matter of time before it takes over everything.
Gratitude does not grow by itself. You consciously decide to cultivate it, the way you work a garden: by thinking about the good, by expressing it, by saying out loud where good things are happening.
The preacher's wish: that a year from now, everyone will have become even more thankful and more joyful. That is good for the people around you, for your marriage, for your church, and it is good for you.

3. Jesus cares about gratitude

The text is Luke 17:11-19. On his way to Jerusalem, Jesus passes through a region between Samaria and Galilee. Ten lepers stand at a distance and cry out, "Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!" He tells them to go and show themselves to the priests, and as they go, they are cleansed. Only one comes back, glorifying God with a loud voice, and falls at Jesus' feet to thank him. He is a Samaritan.
First observation: Jesus notices who comes back. He sees the difference between one and ten. Gratitude is not a detail to him.
According to the preacher, the New Testament contains the call to be thankful 197 times.
"If you have ever asked yourself: God, do I have a calling? Yes, you do. What is it? Gratitude." A life from which thankfulness overflows, at church, but also in traffic jams and at the supermarket checkout.
This is not an attitude reserved for days when everything goes well. Difficulties come too, but you can face them with a thankful heart. That is God's plan for your life.

4. The crisis that brings people together

Second observation: Jews and Samaritans were not friends. The Jews told the Samaritans they had a false picture of God, and the Samaritans found the Jews haughty and proud.
As in conflicts today, two camps no longer talk to each other but talk about each other. Each one plays its own "movie in the head" and interprets every gesture of the other as bad intent.
Yet among the lepers there were Jews and at least one Samaritan. Leprosy was a diagnosis that turned a life upside down overnight: cut off from your family, forced to live outside the town, "a slow death," with no hope. This crisis brought them together, and they came to Jesus together.
Some crises set good things in motion. In a church, a crisis makes you forget the details: whether the front wall is black or white no longer matters. The first disciples stayed in Jerusalem until persecution scattered them.
During Covid, many people showed creativity: if two or three services were needed, a solution was found.
The preacher asks the question: what if we did not need the pressure of a crisis, because we were gripped by God's heartbeat for this world, stronger than any crisis? "Whatever it takes, we will find ways." It is not about me or about you, but about seeing his kingdom come and his will be done.

5. Jesus gives hope, and faith sets out

The lepers cry out from a distance because they are not allowed to come close. Jesus gives them new hope and speaks into their lives: a new reality begins. "Whoever comes to him receives new hope."
There is no immediate miracle. Jesus sends them to the priests, the way provided by the law for a healed leper to be brought back into society.
It is on the way that they are cleansed. The preacher imagines their puzzlement: "We came here and nothing happened, so why would something happen on the way back?"
They probably could not explain why they were going. But they said, "Jesus, if you say so, we'll do it." That is what faith looks like: taking that step.

6. Where are the nine?

Only one comes back, glorifies God, and bows down before Jesus. The text does not say why the others did not come.
The preacher's first reaction: "How ungrateful!" But if we could go and ask them, they would probably answer, "Why do you say I'm ungrateful? Jesus healed me, I can see my children again and hold them in my arms. I am thankful!"
So why do we judge them as ungrateful? "Gratitude that is felt but not expressed looks like ingratitude." What matters to Jesus is not only that they feel thankful deep down, but that they express it.
You know this yourself: we gladly help someone who says thank you. When we get no reaction, we get the impression that what we do is taken for granted.
Expressing gratitude takes time and energy. For the nine, it would have meant making a detour to Jesus before going home. They were swept up again in the bustle of life, in a hurry to make up for lost years.
The perspective shifts: "Dominik, how often are you one of those nine?" How often do I think, "That person really did well," or "Thank you, Jesus, for my family, for my church," and keep it deep in my heart?
When you express your gratitude, you train it, it grows in you, and it spreads to the people around you.
In marriage, what disappears first when things go badly is expressed gratitude, and a negative spiral sets in. "Fight for your marriage." Take the time to ask yourself, perhaps with a friend: what is so wonderful about my wife? Why did I marry her? Then say it. "It's like medicine for your marriage."
The same goes for work: ask yourself what your colleagues and your boss do well, and tell them. Our calling is to leave traces of gratitude around us.

7. The underlying note of gratitude

The preacher often goes on prayer walks. On the way out, he thanks God out loud for what happened during the day, during the week, and sometimes for things more than fourteen years old: back then, God's Word had made such an impression on him that he had written verses on his wall.
These memories come alive again when he prays them. Joy in God grows, trust grows, a sense of security and peace settles in. On the way back, he prays about his problems, but with this foundation: "You were faithful back then, and you will be faithful now too."
With the help of the pianist, he compares life to a piano. We do not choose which keys are pressed: there are the high keys that feel good and the low keys that hurt, an argument, an overload, a problem.
Expressed gratitude works like the pedal. If you hold the pedal down on a wrong note, even the most beautiful melody sounds bad afterward. If you put it on the good that God has done, the wrong notes pass, but the underlying note remains: "My God is for me, I am provided for."
He invites everyone, especially couples, to examine themselves critically: what negative underlying note are you letting settle into the way you look at your spouse? Bring your marriage to God and ask him for fresh eyes. If this does not concern you, look at your church, your work or your children.
To close, he returns to the communion celebrated during the service. God sees each of our faults and, out of love, dies on the cross. Romans 5 says that he proved his love while we were still his enemies.
"When God thinks of you, his underlying note is gratitude, joy, good thoughts for your life." It is not a note of pressure to perform. His invitation: "Come home."
To anyone who does not yet know Jesus, he offers a simple prayer: "Jesus, if you exist and if you are as I have just heard, show yourself to me." That can be the start of a journey.

Key takeaways

Ingratitude grows by itself like weeds. Gratitude is cultivated by a conscious choice.
Jesus notices who comes back to say thank you. Gratitude is part of your calling as a Christian, including on difficult days.
Gratitude that is felt but never expressed looks like ingratitude to the people around you.
Saying thank you takes a detour, time and energy, but it is medicine for your marriage, your work and your relationship with God.
When God thinks of you, his underlying note is love. He proved it at the cross while you were still far from him.

Personal application

What do you consider "normal" today that deserves a thank you: your full fridge, your car, your spouse, the volunteers at your church?
In which relationship are you one of the "nine," thankful deep down but never saying it?
If you are married, what attracted you to your spouse, and when did you last tell them?
What underlying note is holding the pedal of your life right now: a wrong note that colors everything, or God's faithfulness?
What moment of God's faithfulness, even an old one, can you remind him of out loud this week?

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Frequently asked questions

Why does only one of the ten lepers come back to thank Jesus in Luke 17?

The text does not give the reason. Dominik Pöllner thinks the other nine were probably thankful in their hearts but did not express it: saying thank you required a detour, time and energy, and they were caught up in the return to normal life. Yet gratitude that is not expressed looks like ingratitude.

What does "silent gratitude looks like ingratitude" mean?

Jesus does not only ask whether we feel thankful deep down; he cares that it is expressed. When someone helps you and you say nothing, they get the impression that what they did is taken for granted. Expressing your gratitude trains it, makes it grow and reaches the people around you.

How do you cultivate gratitude day to day according to Dominik Pöllner?

Ingratitude grows by itself like weeds; gratitude has to be cultivated. The preacher advises expressing it every day: write it in a notebook, tell someone, thank God out loud. He himself goes on prayer walks where he thanks God for what he has recently experienced and for his faithfulness more than fourteen years ago.